Quite often we pick people as partners/friends who have the opposite brain make up of ourselves.
I think this tendency is a response to an inner drive to be complete, and so we draw people into our lives who represent a different way of being and living in this world in order to learn from them. I have found this in many people I work with and in my own relationships.
It's almost like the two people together make up a whole brain, and though one complete brain is good, two complete brains choosing to spend time together is even better.
The thing is, seeing things from someone else's perspective is difficult, especially when your brain tends to see, analyze, understand things in a very specific and unique way.
Do you ever get into a (heated) discussion with your significant other when after a while you realize that you both have been arguing for and wanting basically the same thing but because it was communicated in a certain way, you were not hearing each other?
Or do you ever feel like you explain things a million different ways but they just don't "get it" or "get you"? It's frustrating because it seems so obvious to you, but to the other person with a different brain make up, it is not obvious.
In these cases, we often just, "agree to disagree" and resign ourselves to just relate in this way or expect a struggle when it comes to communication.
But things don't have to be/stay this way.
I recently had a chance to work with a couple, in real time, to balance both their brains to become more whole brained in themselves and then relate to each other from there. They were both able to turn on both sides of their brain, the logical/linear action brain, as well as their big picture/reading-between-the-lines receptive brain, and they felt like they reached a new level of "seeing where the other person was coming from".
In what areas of relationship do you find struggle?
How would you like to deepen your relationship today?
Both partners need not be present for this change to happen.
Come do a session to become more whole brained, and thereby more satisfied in your relationship today!
I think this tendency is a response to an inner drive to be complete, and so we draw people into our lives who represent a different way of being and living in this world in order to learn from them. I have found this in many people I work with and in my own relationships.
It's almost like the two people together make up a whole brain, and though one complete brain is good, two complete brains choosing to spend time together is even better.
The thing is, seeing things from someone else's perspective is difficult, especially when your brain tends to see, analyze, understand things in a very specific and unique way.
Do you ever get into a (heated) discussion with your significant other when after a while you realize that you both have been arguing for and wanting basically the same thing but because it was communicated in a certain way, you were not hearing each other?
Or do you ever feel like you explain things a million different ways but they just don't "get it" or "get you"? It's frustrating because it seems so obvious to you, but to the other person with a different brain make up, it is not obvious.
In these cases, we often just, "agree to disagree" and resign ourselves to just relate in this way or expect a struggle when it comes to communication.
But things don't have to be/stay this way.
I recently had a chance to work with a couple, in real time, to balance both their brains to become more whole brained in themselves and then relate to each other from there. They were both able to turn on both sides of their brain, the logical/linear action brain, as well as their big picture/reading-between-the-lines receptive brain, and they felt like they reached a new level of "seeing where the other person was coming from".
In what areas of relationship do you find struggle?
How would you like to deepen your relationship today?
Both partners need not be present for this change to happen.
Come do a session to become more whole brained, and thereby more satisfied in your relationship today!
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