Quite often we pick people as partners/friends who have the opposite brain make up of ourselves. 
I think this tendency is a response to an inner drive to be complete, and so we draw people into our lives who represent a different way of being and living in this world in order to learn from them.  I have found this in many people I work with and in my own relationships. 
It's almost like the two people together make up a whole brain, and though one complete brain is good, two complete brains choosing to spend time together is even better.  
The thing is, seeing things from someone else's perspective is difficult, especially when your brain tends to see, analyze, understand things in a very specific and unique way.  

Do you ever get into a (heated) discussion with your significant other when after a while you realize that you both have been arguing for and wanting basically the  same thing but because it was communicated in a certain way, you were not hearing each other?
Or do you ever feel like you explain things a million different ways but they just don't  "get it" or "get you"? It's frustrating because it seems so obvious to you, but to the other person with a different brain make up, it is not obvious.
In these cases, we often just, "agree to disagree" and resign ourselves to just relate in this way or expect a struggle when it comes to communication.

But things don't have to be/stay this way.

I recently had a chance to work with a couple, in real time, to balance both their brains to become more whole brained in themselves and then relate to each other from there.  They were both able to turn on both sides of their brain, the logical/linear action brain, as well as their big picture/reading-between-the-lines receptive brain, and they felt like they reached a new level of "seeing where the other person was coming from".  

In what areas of relationship do you find struggle?
How would you like to deepen your relationship today?
Both partners need not be present for this change to happen.
Come do a session to become more whole brained, and thereby more satisfied in your relationship today!

When she made the appt, she was coming with the goal of being able to work with better focus and efficiency.  
She works from home and she said that she needed to get better at 
"sitting still and focusing". 

I knew this woman from one of my fitness circles, she is a yoga practitioner and I had not seen her in a few weeks.  
She is normally a happy, bubbly and friendly person but when she walked into the session she seemed like she was in shock, with her breath held and face frozen on the verge of tears.  
I have seen this face(and experienced it myself) when people have gone through a shock of some sort, parents who have had children with challenges and had to go to work addressing the needs of their child without ever having the chance to grieve, sudden break ups and deaths of loved ones.

I asked her how she was doing and she said with a strained smile, 
"Fine". (which in woman-ese, is anything but).
It turns out that in the last few weeks she became involved with a superstar teacher(a handsome and sought after teacher who undoubtedly has many admirers), and had had an intense few weeks of crash and burn romance.  
"I knew that about him but I was hoping that it would be different with me...."
And then the tears came. 
She said that she was having a particularly hard time focusing since this all happened, but further discussion revealed that this teacher was supposed to "help me get over another guy", which then showed a bigger and older pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship that had been going on for as long as she could remember.
Not being with anyone throws her off balance and so was particularly affecting her focus, but the deeper issue was not an issue with focus.
It was about being comfortable being alone and feeling like she was in a relationship by choice rather than need.
So the goal of the session turned into, 
"I choose to be in relationship".

Many experiences in her family as well as her own life experiences contributed to her feelings of needing to be with someone to be secure.  These and other learnings were uncovered and balanced using brain gym and intuitive dialogue.

Her comment at the end of her session was, "My brain feels so much cooler and calmer.  I feel like I just want to go home and take care of myself".

I received a note from her the following day which read:

"I had a great nap after the session. I think. I'm not sure if I actually fell asleep because my brain felt like it was still thinking, having some conversation with itself...The good news is, I felt more relaxed calm, less overwhelmed. I felt more at ease and content being home by myself, watching TV and not feeling anxious to go out and be around other people...AND I just had a talk with my friend about everything and surprisingly, I was able to talk about it without feeling the need to cry, without it consuming my mind, without it feeling like my heart was breaking into a million pieces. I just talked, kinda laughed about it, and sort of moved on. I'm not really sure if this is what's supposed to happen but I'll take it. Thanks again for your time. I really appreciate the help."

Making mental and emotional space is sometimes necessary to move forward, and brain integration techniques can help do that relatively quickly and easily.

If you have an experience or situation that you are having a hard time letting go of, or moving past, set up a session today!