She works from home and she said that she needed to get better at
"sitting still and focusing".
I knew this woman from one of my fitness circles, she is a yoga practitioner and I had not seen her in a few weeks.
She is normally a happy, bubbly and friendly person but when she walked into the session she seemed like she was in shock, with her breath held and face frozen on the verge of tears.
I have seen this face(and experienced it myself) when people have gone through a shock of some sort, parents who have had children with challenges and had to go to work addressing the needs of their child without ever having the chance to grieve, sudden break ups and deaths of loved ones.
I asked her how she was doing and she said with a strained smile,
"Fine". (which in woman-ese, is anything but).
It turns out that in the last few weeks she became involved with a superstar teacher(a handsome and sought after teacher who undoubtedly has many admirers), and had had an intense few weeks of crash and burn romance.
"I knew that about him but I was hoping that it would be different with me...."
And then the tears came.
She said that she was having a particularly hard time focusing since this all happened, but further discussion revealed that this teacher was supposed to "help me get over another guy", which then showed a bigger and older pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship that had been going on for as long as she could remember.
Not being with anyone throws her off balance and so was particularly affecting her focus, but the deeper issue was not an issue with focus.
It was about being comfortable being alone and feeling like she was in a relationship by choice rather than need.
So the goal of the session turned into,
"I choose to be in relationship".
Many experiences in her family as well as her own life experiences contributed to her feelings of needing to be with someone to be secure. These and other learnings were uncovered and balanced using brain gym and intuitive dialogue.
Her comment at the end of her session was, "My brain feels so much cooler and calmer. I feel like I just want to go home and take care of myself".
I received a note from her the following day which read:
"I had a great nap after the session. I think. I'm not sure if I actually fell asleep because my brain felt like it was still thinking, having some conversation with itself...The good news is, I felt more relaxed calm, less overwhelmed. I felt more at ease and content being home by myself, watching TV and not feeling anxious to go out and be around other people...AND I just had a talk with my friend about everything and surprisingly, I was able to talk about it without feeling the need to cry, without it consuming my mind, without it feeling like my heart was breaking into a million pieces. I just talked, kinda laughed about it, and sort of moved on. I'm not really sure if this is what's supposed to happen but I'll take it. Thanks again for your time. I really appreciate the help."
Making mental and emotional space is sometimes necessary to move forward, and brain integration techniques can help do that relatively quickly and easily.
If you have an experience or situation that you are having a hard time letting go of, or moving past, set up a session today!